We haven’t gone to church in a long while and my wife tired to wake me up but couldn’t get up. She then said fine I am going to church. I don’t see nothing wrong if I want to stay at home and relax and catch up on some sleep.

She then came back was mad and started to clean house. Now this is the thing with me with her. It seems like she only cleans the house when she is mad. She started to say that the place is a mess and that I am taking advantage of her. I do admit that I haven’t done my part in cleaning I have been sick and haven’t been myself to do it. I am getting better now and I will start to do it.

I was trying to make her realize how the place gets if I dont clean. I sometimes spend time picking up her stuff from the floor and putting it on her side of the closet. I try to be the organizer in the relationship but seems like she just can’t keep up.

Thanks for your reply. I am so happy to hear your neck problem is better.

Today I had to stay home from work because Nessa woke up ill with a fever. By about 9:00am I was also pretty sick, so we’ve both laid around much of the day. Sore throat & aches, sore eyeballs, nothing too major. We were well enough to make a run to Biscuitville and get a late breakfast nonetheless.

While at home one of the repair people came by and fixed the upstairs sink. The problem with both the oven and dishwasher were both determined, but the man who came did not have the tools to fix. The diswasher’s “drain solenoid” is stuck open, thereby letting all the wash water out instead of keeping it inside the chamber for the wash cycle. And as imagined, the problem with the oven is indeed the thermostat. He said they might have to bring a new oven because the cost to repair this one is more than the oven is worth. That would be awesome to get a new one.

I’ve taken down the shelves & vanity cabinet from your new room and have patched the holes in the wall, to prep for painting. I patched some holes in the bathroom as well where an old towel bar used to be that I took down when I moved in (to make room for the over-toilet organizer.) I think a new towel bar in the bathroom will not be needed because I’ve gotten hooks for towels that hang over mine & Nessa’s bedroom door. That also keeps the towels separate for sanitary reasons (not that anybody is dirty, but it is always nice to have a towel to yourself.)

I am still working on the organization of downstairs– Nessa has a lot of toys & art supplies, and I have more books than I realized. I have moved stuff around several times to negotiate what might be the final layout. I think ultimately I will have to get some shelving for the overflow, which I picture being on the wall where the stairs meet, being out of the way of the main living space. The shared closet spaces downstairs are fully organized and I have 1/3 to 1/2 of the space opened up for your belongings.

I am particularly happy with Nessa/my room, in fact I can hardly resist laying on the bed everytime I go in there and just take in the sense of relaxation. The pink color has a suprisingly strong relaxing effect. I made some “curtain” pieces from fabric to cover the front of one of the white pressboard organizers, and I might make curtains for the other ones too. I’m going to get another picture frame or too for some of Nessa’s artwork and photos, as opposed to thumbtacking them to the wall as I had done previously. It looks neater when the art is actually in frames. Hope to make a trip to Home Depot or Lowe’s sometime this weekend.

Anyway, there is the update of how the house is going, and I hope you’ve had a nice day. I guess it is your day off? Well, looking forward to hearing how you are doing. Miss you a lot.

Love Pumpkin

I hear this is one of the major causes of marital discord.